No amount of guilt can change the past & no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah’s decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.[Umar Ibn al-Khattab RadiyAllahu Anhu]
Subhan’Allah, this is beautiful. I am working on implementing this in my daily life. We often read hadith, listen to lectures, read Qur’an, etc for entertainment more so than to learn and practice.
“Guilt” and “repentance” are two different things. We must always seek Allah’s forgiveness, but also can not “dwell on the past”, as it changes nothing. What is done is done, and begging for Allah’s forgiveness is our only option.
This second part is what really gets to me. I, personally, spend way too much time worrying about the future and planning how things are going to plan out. We obviously must plan, but we also have to realize that the rest is out of our hands. Allah is the one that will either make your plan into a reality, not fulfill your plan, but instead make something even better happen to you, or test you by not fulfilling your plan, and also giving you something that can be perceived as bad. God knows best what is “good” and what is “bad” for us.
Umar said it so beautifully, when he said “so go easy on yourselves”… We spend so much time worrying, that we sometimes even go into depressions, while in reality, we have absolutely NOTHING to worry about, and we SHOULD, indeed “go easy on ourselves”… At the end of the day, everything is in Allah’s hands, everything will turn out as He wants for it to turn out, and all of our worries will be of no benefit to us. All we can do is pray to Allah and be good little servants.
And lastly, as Umar said, what is meant to happen to us, will happen. If it is “meant” for you to get into that school you want to get into, YOU WILL, if it is not, YOU WILL NOT! Don’t try to play God and say that you should have gotten in, or that your life would be better had you gotten in. Allah knows best… Perhaps had you gotten in, your life would have gone down the drain because something unforeseeable would have happened to you.
Our job is be pray for the best, and be thankful for the rest.
As long as we do everything according to Allah’s command, the outcome will always be good for us. Whether we see the good in it immediately, or not.
One of my absolute favorite hadith is:
On the authority of Abu Yahya Suhaib bin Sinan (May Allah be pleased with him) it is related that the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said,
“How amazing is the affair of the believer. There is good for him in everything and that is for no one but the believer. If good times come his way, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him, and if hardship comes his way, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.” [Muslim]
May Allah guide us all to the right path. May He straighten our deen!