Let’s talk peer pressure!

In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful…

A little humor to kick off the morning. 🙂

On a more serious note, “peer pressure” often leads us to avoiding going to the masjid, skipping fasting, cursing, alcohol, sex, etc… People are confused who they should prioritize as #1 — their friends, or their Creator.

Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said:

“He who displeased Allah for seeking the pleasure of people, Allah is displeased with him and those people are also displeased, for pleasing whom he had earned Allah’s displeasure. And he who pleases Allah, although by it he displeased people, Allah is pleased with him, and also those people whom he had displeased for pleasing Allah become pleased with him. Allah makes him splendid and his speech and acts in the eyes of others beautiful.” [Tibrani]

This is a wonderful hadith which simplifies life immensely for us. It is impossible to please everybody all the time. In fact, it is even impossible to please one person all the time. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) tells us that instead of constantly catering to one person or another, we should direct all our efforts to pleasing Allah, and He will take care of all the rest. Many a times we shy away from obeying Allah (subhana wa ta’ala), fearing repercussions at the workplace or in our relationships. This hadith warns us against disobeying Allah for the sake of His creatures. In the long run, none of those people will be pleased with us for whom we disobey Allah (subhana wa ta’ala).

The fact is it is Allah who controls the hearts of all of us! Which means if I do something I know is wrong for the sake of satisfying my boss, coworker, friend, or family member, Allah will go into their heart and still insert displeasure towards you — even though you broke God’s rules to please them in the first place. This might not happen immediately, but that’s because Allah works in ways we don’t always understand.

At the same time, if you disappoint someone because you’re trying to follow the rules of Allah, that person may initially be displeased with you, but Allah will then put a liking of you in their heart!

I absolutely love what the Qur’an says in regards this topic:

The wicked used to laugh at those who believed. When they passed by them, they used to poke fun. When they got together with their people, they used to joke. [Quran 83:29]

Today, those who believed are laughing at the disbelievers. [Quran 83:34]

Either way you go, you’re ALWAYS better off pleasing the Lord of the worlds than one of his slaves.

May Allah guide us and our loved ones to the straight path!


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